How to unplug the electrical connector for changing headlights in a Honda accord?

I can%26#039;t get the plug off when i try to change my headlights. How are you supposed to squeeze the plug to unlatch the tab?|||just blow up the whole car and buy something american|||I think I got one loose with pliers and had to leave the other fastened. They are so tight it isn%26#039;t funny. I also had to wrestle with the twist fastening on the bulb sockets, using a screwdriver to pry the thing along at first. Silicone spray helped a bit there but the whole procedure was a nightmare.